(Another different anonymous here.)

This comment struck home for me a bit. I highly support the efforts of geek feminism groups and individuals; I think that as a community we have a serious problem that needs solutions, and I applaud the people working to change that. However, at the same time, I also frequently feel like I can't participate in discussions about any of these topics, for fear of retaliation as part of "them" for not wholeheartedly agreeing with 100% of the party line. ("You're either with us or you're against us.")

In my case, I hold the opinion that we should treat gender as an entirely superficial factor, just like hair color or height. Thus, I take offense at comments like the ones quoted in this blog post (blaming the victims is *never* OK), and even more offense at the original trolling that led to the comments. However, I also take offense at attempts to treat people non-equally in any direction, rather than simply fixing the problems in the first place. It bothers me that I feel afraid to express the latter opinion.

I'm not saying that the name-and-shame approach should never get used, and I actually agree with its use in this case (the comments quoted here don't seem to be legitimate attempts at contributing to discussion, but rather intentionally offensive statements). However, I wish that the "with us or against us" view would allow some room for the possibility of people who agree with the goals of the movement while still wishing to have a discussion about the methods used to reach those goals.